OK, so the honeymoon is over...now what?

A political campaign, both the primary and the general, take us through the engagement and the first few years of marriage.

We all got engaged to Barack about a year ago and now we're married.  And just like most marriages, the honeymoon phase hopefully lasts a good long time with your hearts going pitter-patter each time you're together.  But at some point you may exchange your Victoria Secrets for flannel pj's during the winter.

Welcome to reality.

Like many of you, I am confused about the faith-based government initiatives and upset over allowing civil immunity to telecoms present in the FISA bill.

But like any good marriage, there is a learning curve that takes place; each with the other.  You learn things that you maybe didn't know before about your partner and then decide if they are deal-breakers in the grand scheme of things.  You learn when to compromise and to pick your battles intelligently lest you bicker constantly.

If you add children to the mix, things get even more complicated.  You might have a different way of disciplining than your partner.  You might be more willing to let the little things go than your partner.  You might want to use that timeout chair more than your partner.

But in the end, if the big picture is taken into consideration, and you truly care about the big picture...the marriage...then you just have to make concessions, understand that no one is perfect all the time...because what you came together to do in the grand scheme of things is more important than a single issue; a single battle.

We knew Obama was his own person and that he would, by his own statements, compromise and reach across the aisle.  He told us he would.  Now when he does just that, many are ready to get a divorce and unwilling to pay alimony or child support.  If we are in this together with our nominee, we need to support him in a big way.  We don't have to agree on every issue and we can still pick our battles and argue the important ones in hopes that we can make our partner see the error of their ways.  But we shouldn't bad mouth him to the neighbors, turn the kids against him, and refuse to go to the party with him.

It's time to fight to keep the marriage intact, to hold our heads up and to keep our eyes on the prize...the big picture.  I'm not saying not to criticize, I'm just saying that we need to keep everything in perspective and if Obama's donations fall off dramatically in the days, weeks and months to come, we have just bad mouthed our partner to the neighbors and boy will they spread the news.

I am still unemployed.  My family has no health insurance.  My husband is self-employed and you never know when you will have a good month or a bad one.  But I will find a few bucks to support the saving of my country and a return to good, competent, sane government.  Will you?